10 Guidelines Designing Mindset
Our brains are hardwired to look for the negatives and dwell on them as this mindset allowed humans to survive in early primal times. Although our brains are still hardwired this way, we no longer live in a world where this is necessary. We have the choice to see things differently. Virtually everything is controlled by our thoughts, and we need to embrace that to make the changes that most of us desire. Below are dome guidelines on how to get started designing your Mindset.
1. Mindset is a choice that requires a disciplined daily practice.
Everyone has a different baseline but almost everybody needs to work at mindset every day….like exercise and healthy eating.
2. Watch out for cycles of negative thinking. First pause and begin taking deep breaths to help calm our nervous systems. Ask yourself, “Is this thinking making me feel the way I want?” or “Do I want to keep suffering?”Understand that you have the choice to stop and let go of your thinking. say and repeat to yourself, “Thinking is the root cause of suffering.”
3. Don’t believe everything you think. Self-talk Matters. Challenges your thoughts and talk.
4. Control your inputs by choosing the content you want consume.don’t let content consume you. You are in charge of what you allow to enter your mind-space- be picky! This may mean avoiding the news and social media or restricting the amount of time you’re spending on these platforms.
5. Choose the people you surround yourself with wisely. There is an old Buddhist saying…”The paper that wraps fish eventually smells of fish.” Humans are highly susceptible to social influence, meaning we tend to adopt the behaviors and attitudes of the people around us, especially those we spend a lot of time with. Intentionally surrounding yourself with positive, supportive, and motivated people can help you achieve your goals and develop positive habits. Conversely, spending a lot of time with negative or toxic people can also negatively influence your mindset and actions
6. Curb Your Complaining. Complaining is a knee-jerk reaction to dissatisfaction — a way of expressing frustration. Sometimes complaining serves as a bonding mechanism. And often we complain because it provides temporary relief or validation. Recognizing these tendencies is key to shifting from venting to constructive problem-solving. Experts believe chronic complaining rewires your brain for negativity. The more you complain, the more your brain strengthens neural pathways that make you prone to finding fault. It’s like strengthening a muscle you don’t want to use. Try zero complaining.
7. Develop a Gratitude Practice. Gratitude shifts your focus from what’s wrong to the goodness that is already in your life.
8. Make the Mindset that is currently speaking to you visual. Notes, posters, bracelets, bands. Just not a tattoo. If you can see it you can achieve it.
9. Seek inspiration. Many thought leaders in the Mindset space are also powerful and passionate speakers and writers. Follow the ones that are resonating with you. There are many impactful podcasts, books, TED talks and even live events.
10. Make it fun! Designing your Mindset is a life-long practice. Don’t think of it as a “have-to” but rather at “get-to”.
